Children Learn What They Live

By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte

My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.

(Clarence Budinton Kelland)

I really agree.... 

Your children need your presence more than your presents. 

(Jesse Jackson)

One Student One Piece

When a student takes a piece of rubbish from the floor or ground and throws it into the rubbish bin everyday for a week. The next week, a student takes two pieces of rubbish from the floor or ground and

Change the way you think

It was Tuesday. I came into the 9th grade classes. Not teaching, but I only wanted them to share what they worried about their last year in the school. Most of them worried about being failed in the final exam. I was shocked since most of them - including the high-rank students - said that. The question is:

God has created children with their own talents

Just show your children the ways to get what they dream of. Be not disappointed when you find your children's dreams are not the same as what you dream of. That's God's work!

Do you teach HONESTY?

One day a woman sent me a letter. In the letter she asked me permit her daughter not to attend the choir rehearsal because her daughter was sick. The letter was brought given to me by the daughter. Before I opened the envelope, I asked the daughter what her problem was. She said she couldn't join the rehearsal because

Trust and Obey

The drivers of public transportation around Islamic Village are the kings of road. They drive as if they have the road. They have their own rule in driving. They stop anywhere they want. They do not queue when there is a traffic jam. They 'cut' another driver's way. They don't care about the traffic rule. But when there are some police officers there, they act as good and polite drivers. Uuuhhh....

At school, have you obeyed the rule of your school? Do you obey

Cruel Parents

It was Tuesday. I met one of my student's mom. I had to meet her because her son had made a 'dangerous' foul. She told me that she wanted her son to get very good scores in every lesson. To achieve it, she had sent her son to a 'school-like' course. Everyday--Monday to Friday, the son had to go to school from 7 a.m. to 1.30 p.m. and then he had to attend the course - which has the same subjects and materials as the school has - from 3 p.m. to 7 or 8 p.m.

He's a very very very unlucky student.

Response to Apology

It was Friday, the day I trained my children (later I call them 'glees') in the choir (Tarakanita Glee Club). It had been a beautiful day until I realized something wrong with my glees. During the rehearsal, I made two mistakes. I gave a wrong example; I sang alto's part for the soprano. Then when I accompanied the glees with my keyboards, I played the wrong part.

As I made the mistakes, I said,"Ups...Sorry, I AM wrong."

And this was the response: "Huuuuuu...!!!" (in a choir way).
At the end of the rehearsal I asked them,"Is this the appropriate response?"
I'm sure our children often give such a response. It's not too late to fix it. Fix it if you love your children.
So be the first to give positive response to others, even if we have to give response to other's mistake....